Thursday, October 29, 2009

How are women affected by seasonal affected disorder?

As the seasons turn from summer and fall into winter, the days become shorter and people are unable to benefit from the sun as much as they could in the summer. The winter, while it does have its beauty and charm, can be one of the most depressing seasons of the four. It is a well-known fact that there are more cases of seasonal affective disorder, otherwise referred to as S.A.D., in the northern climates where winter is not only cold, but the darkest time of year as the days grow shorter. For many, this can lead them into a depression because of the lack of sunlight.

It is often asked if women are more susceptible to seasonal affective disorder than men. Women do appear to be more affected by SAD than men are. In fact, some statistics suggest that about three quarters of all Americans who have seasonal affective disorder are women. One interested point to add here is that many of these women suffering from SAD are apparently over the age of thirty. This could lead many to believe that age may have a little to do with which women may be more susceptible than others; however, research is still being done to further understand this form of depression. Whether age or gender has something to do with it or not, it is firmly believed that the lack of sunlight is one of the key causes of seasonal affective disorder.

Those who suffer from seasonal affective disorder will start to experience symptoms in the seasons of fall and winter as the temperature cools and the days begin to grow shorter. Some symptoms these women will often feel include fatigue, have more of an appetite and may even gain some weight, have some difficulty in focusing on any tasks or work, and may even experience more severe symptoms of premenstrual syndrome. Overall, the feeling of depression, lethargy and even some apathy could be some signs of seasonal affective disorder if they are often associate with the seasons of fall and especially winter.

Women who feel they may be suffering from seasonal affective disorder should obtain some help. By speaking with someone about their depression, they could find a way to deal with it that could lesson the symptoms. By lessoning their symptoms, they will be able to go about their daily lives without too much difficulty. By taking the time to speak with a counselor or therapist, on is taking steps to keeping their self and their lives on the level. Women who prefer to stay out of the offices can easily find help from their home computer. There are many online counselors and online therapist who offer their services online in order to help those who can not make it into the office. The online counseling sessions can be booked and communication can be done through messaging in a secure chat session. If online therapy sessions are not going to be as easy to hold, there is always the option of communicating through e-mail, especially for those who do not wish to speak on a weekly basis.

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Monday, October 26, 2009

Is there such a thing as a broken heart?

Most view women as the more emotional ones of the species. It is said by some that it is why women have been able to avoid the more serious health problems associated with holding in one’s emotions. While it seems that it is not really accepted by society for men to show much in the way of how they feel, because that would show weakness where a man is supposed to be the strong one who can handle just about anything that comes his way. At the same time, it seems to be accepted that women are more emotional and showing or expressing these feelings is something that women do.

As it is more acceptable, or alright, for women to express their emotions and to let it all out, it has been thought for many years that it could very well be the reason why women are less prone to heart problems or other stress-related health issues. These days, it is perhaps not as true as women are taking on more responsibilities and becoming just as or more involved in the workplace. However, it is not the general stresses that this article is focused on. Whether it was a hundred years ago or yesterday, it is possible that women have a more difficult time in letting go of a relationship than men. There could be many reasons for this, the most of which being that it is more in the woman’s nature to bond with a man on a deeper level. This is, of course, simply speculation, but it is something that many have considered as a probable reason. This is not to say the woman is weaker or simply more emotional, it is something that is rooted in one’s instinct from years of evolution. Whether it was the woman or the man to break off the relationship, the woman could have a difficult time with the breakup because, depending on how involved the relationship was or how long it had existed; there could be some very deep feelings that have been affected.

Broken hearts are not easy for anyone, but for women it can be more difficult to avoid because they are more in tune with their emotional side than men are. There is such a thing as a broken heart; in fact the medical reference to it is ‘stress cardiomyopathy’. This condition is where the person has become so distressed over the loss of a loved one in a breakup or tragedy where the heart muscle is temporarily weakened. Getting over a relationship is something that can take some time. Contacting an online counselor or online therapy could be a nice way to help ease the process as well. Online therapy could be a comfort for those who simply need to confide in someone and get something off their chest. Online counseling can also help a woman to realize why it could be good that the relationship came to an end. Once the healing starts, she can start to move forward in her life, feel better about her self and start looking forward to her unknown, but exciting, future.

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Thursday, October 22, 2009

How do men handle social status?

Life and its expectations; or rather, our social expectations of us. Whether we realize it or not, even in this day and age, we are raised with certain ideas about what our most basic purpose is going to be in life. It is natural, as similar roles have been focused on for as long as humans have walked to earth, for girls to be seen as future wives and mothers and boys to be future fathers and providers for the family. While there have been some exceptions in the past, it has only been within the last little while that women are starting to break their traditional roles and do more on their own. Unfortunately, this can leave men out in the cold wondering where their purpose begins in life.

While expectations and views are changing drastically in the western world, the basic views still, somewhat, exist. Men, naturally, are the providers and feel that they have to be able to look after their family; at least the ones who decide to take on the role as a husband and/or a father. While nature’s expectations of them still ring out loud and clear, society’s expectations can have quite the pull as well. It has always been that the more money one makes, the more possessions they have and the better social standing they have, the better appearance they have in their society. The better their appearance and standing, the better off the family tends to be. Unfortunately, a man can lose sight of what really matters to him as he works day and night to better himself and his family based on what society dictates. It is often a regret that many men have when they look back on their life and realize that they were too busy with work to spend time with their children. Some men do not even get the chance to have any children, because they have never given the time for a strong relationship with a woman that would last long enough. Then, there are men who had made the decision to commit to a relationship, but then later forgot about taking the time to keep in touch or build on that relationship because work always filled their mind first.

Waiting until one is forty before really focusing on what one actually deems as important to them in life, beyond all the material things, is too long. By then, the damage may be irreparable. However, if one takes the time to step back, look at their life and realize what they may be missing, then it is possible that relationships can be mended and changes can be made in order to live life the way it was meant to be. Living life for what is important to one in their heart is often more rewarding than one’s life where they have achieved all the material goals but have no one to share or enjoy it with. For those worried about losing their path in life, or who feel that they may be losing focus, seeking the advice of an online counselor or online therapist could be very helpful. Online therapy can help guide one in altering their life and or their views when determining what it is that they really want out of life. Speaking with an online counselor can also help one see if they need to focus more on their personal relationships with a significant other and/or any children involved within that relationship. It is well and good to fulfill one’s natural purpose in life, but when it comes to ensuring that the heart gets what it needs, sometimes some extra care needs to be taken so that one does not look back on their past with a heavy feeling of regret.

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Monday, October 19, 2009

How do you deal with your insecurities?

It would seem that while security in life is something desired by most people, it can easily be something that many are left chasing throughout their entire life. There are many reasons for this, especially for people who have been abused at some point in their life, or have always found fault in themselves. The inability to trust in others can create some difficulty in finding a secure relationship. Feeling unsure of one’s self or feeling that they do not really have a right to a better life can also get in the way of a woman finding a secure life for herself.

Life, in general, is something that is never going to be one hundred percent guaranteed; however, one can work to find their own place in life where they are comfortable and have something close to what they want. Relationships, whether they are friendships or something more can help to build some security in life. Friends and/or a significant other can help a great deal, because they are a form of support they can depend on if something were to go wrong. That being said, it is not always easy. To build relationships, one has to be willing to communicate with others in order to meet people. From there, one has to be open to the idea of eventually being able to put trust into someone else has to be there, or strong friendships or relationships cannot grow. Trust, acceptance and open communication is what will often build strong bonds between people, without these, relationships can be hard to keep or even start.

People who feel insecure in themselves will often find themselves avoiding people. If they do not avoid others, they may look to make friends with the kind of people who are not the kind of people who will help to build confidence in themselves or their life choices. If anything, it could actually create more of a problem for the person looking for some relief from their insecurities. In truth, before one can work to lessen their insecurities, they need to first address what it is that is causing them. Speaking with an online counselor through online therapy can go a long way to helping one to address what is getting in the way of their being able to settle in to life. Some might not feel that speaking with an online therapist could help, but it could help one to address their issues and get them moving forward in their life. An online counselor is easy to talk to and can be contacted at any time. Once in touch, the online therapist could help one to settle their fears and work towards lessening their one or many insecurities and worries about life. As time goes one, and one stays with the online counseling, they may find they can relax and enjoy life. It could also eventually lead to healthier, stronger and longer relationships, which can, in turn, create the feeling of more security in life and one’s self.

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Thursday, October 15, 2009

How do you deal with confrontational people?

For many, dealing with confrontational people may not be something they have to deal with very often. For others, confrontational people may just seem to follow them everywhere. Whether it is at school or at work, there are many who are trying to go through their lives without becoming the target for someone else’s wrath. This particular article is going to deal with those who seem to attract this kind of behavior. The victim here is not someone who is confrontational with others, in fact, these are people who often wish to be left alone to live their lives and/or try their best to get along with just about anyone.

The automatic reaction for many who become the target for others, who seem to pick fights or arguments with them, is to avoid that person at all cost. This, of course, can be quite difficult to do, especially if they share a school or are in the same workplace. Some will become less social and hope that they can be as unnoticeable as possible, while others start to question why they are the focus of such treatment. Many will stop and ask themselves what it could possibly be that they are doing to annoy this person. Perhaps they are the ones who are doing something wrong, have said something wrong or are, in some way, asking for this kind of treatment. In most cases, looking at one’s self is not the answer, so placing the blame there does not help. One has to start asking what the issue is with the other person. It could be that they are jealous over their target’s achievements, or maybe they are just simply irritated by them but are unsure as to why. They might not even bother asking the question of why, because they become too focused on picking fights with that individual. It could also be that the person feels they get a reaction out of their victim; a reaction that they take enjoyment out of. For whatever reason, this person may like to inflict social or mental pain on another, because it makes them feel better about themselves. In the end, in this situation, there is no real reason other than the pleasure they seem to get out of it.

It is not uncommon for one in this situation to become frustrated with the person causing them discomfort in their school or workplace. As this continues to go on, the person may start to feel insecure and a little unsure of themselves. They may start to question whether there is good reason for the treatment they are receiving. When unsure of how to deal with a situation like this, one should consider consulting and online therapist or online counselor. The online counseling can help this person in two ways; one being that they may see that there is nothing about themselves that they should be feeling insecure about, and the other being that it is likely that the other person likes to pick fights because they want attention from them. Sometimes a person who seems to be confrontational all the time behaves this way because they are not sure how to take someone; unsure of how to act or behave around this person. It could also be that they find something about this person that annoys them, but it is likely their issue, not their victim’s.

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Monday, October 12, 2009

How do you deal with constant disappointment?

While most would prefer life to just be about the positives, life does come with many disappointments. Regardless of age, interests, career and family, disappointment is something that everyone must deal with at one point or another. Some are able to take it relatively well, while others never seem to be able to take it well at all. As much as everyone would like things to go as they plan, life has this way of throwing something unexpected at an individual, just when they thought they had everything lined up perfectly for they path they had chosen. When this happens, this individual will often be left with two choices; the first being to dust themselves off and try another route, or to deny that something is not going to work and try to go the same path with the hope that it will still work out.

It all really depends on what it is that has caused someone their disappointment. If it is something that was not overly important to the individual, then the upset can be relatively small and will pass in a very short time. If, however, it was something that the person had been looking forward to for a long time, it can be something that stays in their mind for a long time. Both of these instances are fairly common and are eventually forgotten. For those who suffer constant disappointment, however, the more they suffer, the more difficult it can become to try and let it go. Constant disappointment is often experienced by those with a parent or loved one who is suffering from a drug abuse, who will promise they can change but never do. It will also often be experienced by those with others, a parent, sibling or significant other, who just never seem able to keep the promises they make. These two general situations are probably the most common, though there are other ways people can constantly find themselves feeling disappointment in their self or their life, especially if they have high expectations or standards for themselves and their future.

Disappointment is a part of life, and something that most have to accept as something that will happen. Life is hardly predictable, despite any efforts to make it so. However, constant disappointment is not normal and something that no one can handle large amounts of. It can lead to stress, depression, lack of trust and a breakdown of relationships if not dealt with. Disappointment is usually a result of something that has happened, something that the individual may have thought should not have happened. Speaking with an online therapist or an online counselor about what is causing such constant disappointment can help a person change their life. The online therapy can help a person determine what they can do in order to change or deal with whatever is causing it. If it is another person or problem, then the online counseling may be able to help a person deal with that other person or problem. Disappointment is a resulting emotion, so the cause will have to be addressed in order to move forward.

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Friday, October 9, 2009

Are you frustrated by your husband?

Life, as predictable as it can be and as unpredictable as it is, is never as perfect as one would like it to be. It is common for many young girls to grow up with the belief that they will find true love, that they will find that perfect husband and their life will, for the most part, follow the expected path. It does not take long, however, before reality hits and things are noticeably different than what they had originally thought they would be. Suddenly, after the first year of marriage or at least after the infatuation dies away, the ‘perfect’ man is not quite the person they may have thought he was.

The truth that any woman should face before they decide they want to get married to that particular person they have been dating for a while is that they might have quirks, or little annoying habits that may have been overlooked. While these are simply something that will have to be lived with if they love that person enough to be with them the rest of their lives, there might be some other traits or quirks that they may not be able to live with. After being married for a while, the little annoying traits in behavior or personality may become, somewhat, magnified into something that can drive the wife into bad temper. Perhaps the husband who promised they would be a certain way, and may have been a certain way when they were dating, are now a little more the opposite of all that. When dating, everyone wants to appear their best, so it is not uncommon for both husband and wife to see some changes in the other after the dating is over and they have made the commitment to each other. As time goes on, either the wife will realize that the little irritations are outmatched by the positives of the person she married, or she may find that she is losing patience. Depending on what it is that she is frustrated with her husband with, it can become a strain on the marriage.

The important thing in any relationship where the wife is becoming increasingly annoyed and frustrated with their husband, is that talking to the husband can help to bring an end to what it is that is getting on her nerves. By talking to him, he might be able to change what he’s doing to cause her annoyance, or they might be able to reconcile or come to a compromise that can make both happy. Marriage takes work and letting some quirks or small things that the wife might find irritating about her husband should not be the cause for a breakup. Leaving the marriage should be the last resort, communication should be tried first. If that does not work, contacting an online counselor or online therapist can help. Online counseling or online therapy may be able to help the couple realize that the things they are annoyed are not that important. In fact, it could help the wife, and even the husband, remember why they married this person. It could help take the focus off the few negative aspects, and focus more on the positives. If you or anyone that you know would care for more information on this, please feel free to visit http://www.completecounselingsolutions.com

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

What do you do when life is not what it should be?

Just about everyone reaches a point in their life when they review their past and present and wonder if they have made too many mistakes along the way. Whether it is that they think they have not made enough money, have not made it as far in the career as they thought they would have, or their life is in no way what they originally thought it would be, many can find themselves wondering if they made too many wrong decisions in the past. While remembering lessons learned in the past can benefit one’s future, one has to be careful not to dwell on the past lest they forget to look in the direction they are going in life.

The first thing one should realize when they start thinking this way is that the past is done and there is nothing they can do to change it. The next step would be to start thinking about all the positive things that exist in one’s life, such as the loving spouse they chose to marry. It can be very easy for anyone to start becoming a little more pessimistic about themselves and their lives, especially if they have hit a bit of a rough patch. It could be that they have been struggling financially for the last couple years, which can be understandable if there have been layoffs and/or a recession that can put just about anyone in a bad mood. It takes a little more effort, but working on being more optimistic and focusing more on the good things one has is important when life is starting to look less than what one thinks it should be. Life is unpredictable, and despite how much one tries to stay with their plans, things happen that are beyond anyone’s control. All one can do in these cases is go with the flow and try to make the best of the current situation.

When life starts to look a little grim and one is finding it difficult to find the good in their current situation, contacting an online counselor might be a good idea. Before saying no to this idea, consider that an online therapist can offer an objective and impartial view on one’s life. The online therapist could also offer some interesting suggestions about the sorts of things one should be focusing on or changing in their lives in order to brighten things up a bit. Online therapy can be a great way for one to get their problems out in the open, such as things that have been bothering them for a while. In turn, this can help one start to realize what it is that might be drowning out all their optimism. Online counseling can also help one to find out more about what changes they can make in themselves and their lives in order to make their life more of what they believe it should be. Life will never be perfect; it will never go 100 percent the way one plans it, but there are always other paths in life one can take that can make it as close to being perfect as it can be.

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Thursday, October 1, 2009

How do you make life more interesting?

It happens to everyone, some not as much and some more than others, that life can become a little stagnant and boring. Depending on what one does for a living and what regrets they have, life can seem like it is one large boring mess that will never change. Change will not happen on its own, one has to make their life change by doing something to sort it out and put it more in line with what they really want. Some may feel it is too late to do something about making their life more exciting, but the truth is that it is never too late for anyone who feels the need to expand their knowledge and experiences.

It is easy for one to lose sight of their original dreams and goals, especially if they are a stay at home mother who has become immersed in looking after her husband and three young children. What about when those children are all going to school and she has some time to think about her current life choices? There is nothing wrong with looking after the home and children, but the mind and what one wants out of life cannot be ignored forever. A time will ultimately come when she will decide she wants more out of life. Perhaps going back to school, getting a part time job or doing some volunteer work is something that sparks an interest. Unfortunately, many women in this situation who find themselves thinking about getting more out of life might start to talk themselves out of trying something different, because they feel that they have been out of the workforce too long, or have been away from school for too many years. Some women may start to feel that they are too old to do something different, and that they have reached a point in their lives where their path cannot be changed.

It is important for all in this situation to remember that it is never too late to live one’s life. Regardless of what one wants to do, there are a number of options one can choose from in order to expand their mind, to contribute to society or to feel they are doing something purposeful with their life. For those who feel they need to do something more, but are unsure of what they should do, seeking some help from an online counselor can be quite helpful. While it may seem strange for someone who is not suffering from depression or from any serious family issues to seek the help of an online therapist, it can help one to find some direction in their life. Online counseling can be a useful too that can help one to sort out their thoughts and guide them to the kind of answers they seek, such as what they would like to be doing with their time. Online therapy can help one find out more about themselves, so that they can identify what really interests them. This could ultimately lead them to a new career choice or hobby that could change their lives, and open a new chapter to a new and exciting unknown.

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