Tuesday, November 11, 2008

What do you do when your spouse goes to jail?

Despite what anyone's view of marriage may be, it takes work and commitment to make marriage work. If one is not ready to accept they might have to be strong and fight their way through some real hardships, marriage might not be a good idea. This is not to say that all marriages were made without careful thought, there are many who do go into marriage cautiously and truly believe that they will do their best to stand beside their partner for better or for worse.

There are many predictions one can make about where their marriage might go, though having their spouse go to jail might not be one that most will think about. It all depends on the person one marries. Not everyone who goes to jail is a horrible human being, many just make mistakes in their life and jail, unfortunately, is where their mistake will lead them. It is not an easy situation for one to have their spouse go to jail. Not only can it be shocking and hard to take at first, it can be extremely upsetting for both, and time spent being apart for a long period of time can put an incredible strain on any relationship. Whether or not the marriage will live through such an event will depend on many things, including the financial situation at home, the social status of the one at home, what kind of crime the one in jail committed and how committed the couple is to making their marriage work through the time apart. It is, of course, not always an easy choice, especially if the one jailed is being put away for many years, instead of just a year or two. Many marriages have made it through, regardless of the length of time and the stress endured, though many have failed as well.

As mentioned before, one spouse going to jail can be stressful to both parties, especially if they are quite attached. Both may want the marriage to work, but there are those left behind who feel that since their spouse is going to jail for so long they don't want to wait. Instead, they feel they want to live some life while their partner is away, maybe even getting a divorce. A lot of guilt and frustration can build and overwhelm a person until they are not sure what they want to do, or even how to carry on with their lives while they wait for their loved one to come home. In a situation like this, online counseling might be a good idea. All one has to do is go online a do a quick search for an online counselor. An online therapist would be more than happy to provide some support and help for anyone dealing with the difficulties of having their partner in jail, regardless of how long they are serving time for. Online therapy could be a good way to vent and to deal with the overwhelming emotions. It can be a great way to help organize one's thoughts and decide on what they want to do.

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